Relationship Rescue

How to Discuss Issues

Holiday 911

God Knows Marriage Isn't Always Easy

Courage to Love...When Your Marriage Hurts

How to Stay Married Without Going Crazy

Why Infidelity Happens

A Prayer of Thanksgiving

15 Hot Ideas for Phenomenal Physical Intimacy!

What Makes Marriage Work?

Making Marriage Work.

Ten Great Dates to Revitalize Your Marriage

52 Dates For You & Your Mate: Three Wishes Date

52 Dates For You & Your Mate: Honeymoon Memory Date

52 Dates For You & Your Mate: Showers, Bubble Bath, and Candles Date

52 Dates For You & Your Mate: Play-with-a-Pet Date

Divorce Hurts Children Of All Ages

Couples Don't Divorce, Families Divorce

For The Sake of The Kids

Is Divorce All Bad?

“Marriage: Why It’s So Hard”

Water is wet, heat is hot and marriage is hard. Think about it. Why wouldn’t it be? Sharing a life together is an awesome assumption to begin with. I mean, we get tired of people in an elevator and here we are expecting to share all of our most precious resources with another person for 50 or 60 years, preferably in peace and harmony, and absolutely be happy while we’re doing it. The notion of having “to work” at marriage is an odious contemplation for most of us who down in our deepest emotional recesses believe that if we loved each other enough, all would flow easily. No real effort would be necessary. There would be no troubles or problems between us, and those difficulties imposed on us by the environment we would meet together in mutual support and attunement. Our disagreements would be rare and trivial and without emotional investment.

Wrong.

The first information I want to share with you is that marriage is difficult. For everyone. Sure, some folks have less difficulty than others do, but it is hard to be married because living with another person is hard. While most people don’t come into therapy to deal with a college or apartment roommate, I’ve heard much about this relationship during my office hours. Living together requires each person to be flexible and adaptable so even roommates have to learn to adapt. They don’t have the emotional burdens that spouses carry into the living arrangements.

Living with someone takes some adjusting even if you’re not married to him/her. It’s not impossible, just difficult. Accepting that as reality and not as anomaly will encourage you to be more open to what this book has to offer.