There is good reason for women to admire the door-holding man or the fellow who offers to help her with her packages. Inwardly, a woman sees such a man as continuous with an earlier time where similar acts meant that he wanted to be her champion. The gleam of admiration flashing in her eyes when you offer her assistance is saying that she accepts you as protector of her person and her worth. It also means that she plans to reward you for your exertions! To her, you are valorous when you use your strength to support what is important to her and put it between her and harm’s way. This lifts her spirit with greater hopes for what she values and gives her a welcome assurance that you wish to work for well with her.
She feels the thrill of the knight’s image come alive when you work with her on the things that she finds important, and this reaches much more than her safety. She especially feels this way about your strength and support with things she cannot achieve by herself, or only with difficulty. When you stir the knight’s image in her she feels a world of new possibility opening to her and her warmest, most affectionate thoughts turn quickly to you. One part of her ideal man is a knight whose way will lift her from her concerns and carry her off to the love of her fondest dreams. You do this whenever she sees that you are happy to work with her and be there for her.
Courtesy to a woman is kin to assisting her and carries a similar meaning. It tells her that you have a high regard for her and esteem her as a person, and she takes this to mean that you will act to uphold the dignity and worth that you see in her. Women unconsciously see courtesy in a man as a thing that the charms of their psyche have created. They treasure how this as their handiwork makes them feel because they regard every good coming from you to them as first created by what you find in them. This is, of course, a point already made several times, but worth repeating. Women also find in courtesy a royal message to others about how she wants to be treated, and she proudly displays the fellow who does so for all to see. A woman finds the same or similar meanings when you dance with her for there you have the lead and she relies on you in public, just like the damsel and the knight errant. Dancing of the close up kind gives her the thrill of feeling for herself how much stronger and directed you are than she, and this can make her feel helpless in the happiest way.
