Can Men & Women be ‘Just Friends?’

Everything Romance

50 Ways to Create Great Relationships

1001 Ways To Be Romantic

How To Succeed With Women

The RoMANtic’s Guide

A Man’s Field Guide To Dating

The Long View

The Odds

Welcome

Why did I write this book? I found myself single again in 1992 after several years of marriage. Like many others I simply stumbled into the world of dating and made lots of mistakes. I also met some wonderful people. The whole process fascinated me. I discovered that most people were as mystified by dating and relationships as I was. I talked about this incessantly with my friends and colleagues. What do women want? Why do we behave the way that we do? Why can't guys commit? You heard all the questions.

I have always enjoyed the company of women and have nurtured platonic friendships with them when I could. Often I would receive desperate calls late at night asking for my advice "as a guy." I thought that it would be a lot simpler if the guy in question were in the loop. Then I could get more sleep. This book includes many of the insights I gleaned from these tearful conversations. Now I can just suggest that her boyfriend read the book before she calls. I asked dozens of women to read the manuscript before we went to press. Many of their names are in the acknowledgments. They were brutally honest. Because of this, I feel very confident that the ideas presented here are valid. They are telling you what they want. You only have to listen and adjust. I wish I had had this information seven years ago.

Why is the book written in first-person plural? (We) I had so much help from friends and family that I could not represent these ideas and suggestions as purely my own. Much of the information is conventional wisdom. I was not comfortable speaking to you as an individual. Many women contributed their thoughts and feelings to these pages. You get the benefit of their honest perspectives on dating. That is who the "we" is.

I sincerely wish you the best in your search for happiness. Being single and dating can be a wonderful period in your life. It's all up to you and how you look at it. People don't date enough. Guys are afraid of rejection. They don't extend enough invitations. (Women say "no" too often, but that's another story.) It is my hope that this book will have some impact on the problem. Date more. Enjoy yourself. Make as many women smile as possible. I think that will make everyone happier, especially your mom.