Male Tunnel Vision, Why is he so distracted?

Mixed Messages...When your partner wants to be together but isn't ready for a relationship.

The Rubber Band Man - Is he taking a time out or is this a sign about your future?

Choose a Lifemate … Don’t Wait for a Soulmate

Winning at the Dating Game

The Miracle of Love

The Soulmate Solution

LOOKING FOR MR. (OR MISS) RIGHT?

Find Your Match

Dating and the Pursuit of Happiness

10,000 Ways to Say I Love You

How To Really Love The One You’re With

Chapter One (continued): Get Smart! Decision Making
Active Reflection

Active reflection in romantic relationships includes the elements of understanding yourself, gaining information about your partner, making sense of how the two of you "fit," and finally deciding what to do about it. In order for it to be effective, it requires that you be completely honest with yourself about your actions, your partner, and the patterns of your current or past relationships. By "actively" engaging in deep thought (reflection) through talking about it with a trusted friend or writing about it in your journal, you are "working" with the information, thus internalizing it.

An example of lack of reflection is when you take classes and sit through a lecture, but never actively listen, write down, or talk about the material presented. When this happens, you rarely retain the information. You do not gain knowledge and you do not learn. Likewise, if you take a passive approach to love, you will not learn important lessons. On the other hand, if you choose to actively engage yourself in your love decisions, you "get smart" and are able to make the necessary changes. Change is a central component to personal growth and development. And a willingness to change is essential to increasing your chances for finding right and real love.

Once you begin to use active reflection, you will begin to see your romantic relationships more clearly. When you have mastered active reflection, it will be easy to know who and what make you the happiest.

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