How To Really Love The One You’re With
By Larry James
Commitment
I have a love relationship with total commitment, deep commitment, a commitment to each other to always do whatever it takes to create a trusting, loving and healthy love relationship. Commitment is the foundation, the bedrock of my unconditional love relationship.
My love partner and I are totally committed to each other’s happiness and we consistently demonstrate our love in many ways. I know that I can only foster personal and spiritual growth of my love partner through a love relationship of constancy.
A forever love relationship requires devotion, loyalty and a mature ability to commit.
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is the key to happiness in a love relationship. It ends the illusion of separation, and its power can change misery into happiness in an instant. Forgiveness means choosing to let go, move on, and favor the positive.
The first step in the forgiveness formula is for me to release my hurt and anger safely and constructively, without dumping on my partner. The second step is the acknowledgement that both of us can grow from the incident. I am not afraid to admit how I might have contributed to any miscommunication and upset. The issue is not to blame or find fault, but to learn and grow. The third step must include the expression of love, trust, and intimacy. The more I can express my feelings of tenderness and commitment, the more easily my partner can acknowledge my pain.
Forgiveness releases my love partner from my criticism and also releases me from being imprisoned by my own negative judgments. Every time I forgive, I am radiating Divine Love from the living center of myself and directing It to the one forgiven.
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